A Canadian mother of five decided to enjoy a day at the beach with two of her children and for the first time in 13 years, she wore a bikini. To her surprise, a few other beach goers found this unsuitable.
She was taunted for her stretch marks by a group of adults and she overheard them openly mocking her while pretending to kick her.
Tanis Jex-Blake of Edmonton, Alberta took to Facebook and let out her anguish to those bullies at the beach.
This is an open letter to the 2 guys and 1 girl who decided to skip work today in Sherwood Park where they were building a house, but instead decided to come to Alberta Beach to relax in the sun, enjoy the water and some beers. I’m sorry if my first attempt at sun tanning in a bikini in public in 13 years “grossed you out.”
I’m sorry that my stomach isn’t flat and tight. I’m sorry that my belly is covered in stretch marks. I’m NOT sorry that my body has housed, grown, protected, birthed and nurtured FIVE fabulous, healthy, intelligent and wonderful human beings. I’m sorry if my 33-year-old, 125 lb. body offended you so much that you felt that pointing, laughing, and pretending to kick me.
But I’ll have you know that as I looked at your ‘perfect’ young bodies, I could only think to myself, “what great and amazing feat has YOUR body done?” I’ll also have you know that I held my head high, unflinching as you mocked me, pretending that what you said and did had no effect on me; but I cried in the car on the drive home. Thanks for ruining my day.
It’s people like you who make this world an ugly hateful place. I can’t help but feel sorry for the women who will one day bear your children and become “gross” in your eyes as their bodies change during the miraculous process of pregnancy. I can only hope that one day you’ll realize that my battle scars are something to be proud of, not ashamed of.
The story spread to a radio station in Edmonton, who shared Jex-Blake’s message and photo. That post got over 1 million likes and 200,000 shares.
Jex-Blake said the struggle with her body image and the sad anger she felt after the incident is what made her post the message on Facebook.
“When I posted it initially, I was angry – angry at them, and at myself for not saying anything right then and there,” she said. “Now, I could care less if they ever read or heard about how they made me feel. Because my one moment of feeling horrible has empowered millions of women to embrace who they are and love their bodies. So it was all worth it.”
Jex-Blake said she never expected the type of response she got and called it “crazy and overwhelming.”
Jex-Blake is partnering with other mothers in the area to host a post-baby bikini sit-in in efforts to encourage moms to be proud of their bodies.
Mother in bikini mocked over stretch marks
An Edmonton mother-of-five is overwhelmed by the support she’s received since writing an open letter on Facebook about being viciously mocked over her less-than-tight tummy.